THE ROADMAP

Stories about anticipating, planning for and navigating life’s twists, turns, tragedies, and triumphs.

Learning about leadership in the St. Paul midway

Learning about leadership in the St. Paul midway

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion page, June 21, 2020 “In parts of our society, there appears to be a turmoil of trust and a crisis in civility. There also appears to be a very sweeping, debilitating and destructive narrative of if you are not with me, then you are against me. Sadly, this…

Navigating our troubled times

Navigating our troubled times

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion page, June 7, 2020 Protestors with masks on freeways, a fuel truck bearing down, horn blaring. It’s one of many powerful images reflecting the surreal state of affairs in 2020. For months we’ve been told to quarantine, furlough employees, avoid family, friends, churches and gyms, all to protect…

Reflecting and regrouping during the pandemic

Reflecting and regrouping during the pandemic

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion page, May 24, 2020 Way back in January, I decided this was going to be my best year ever. Resolving to be more deliberate about how and with whom I spent my time and resources, I set goals and made a plan. Then the coronavirus arrived like a…

Lucas Houk working on his art

Special needs, extraordinary concerns

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion page, May 3, 2020 It took many years and many hands to assemble the scaffolding that provides the structure for Lucas Houk’s life. When coronavirus infiltrated our communities, the structure toppled. Like my son Jack, Lucas was diagnosed in the 1990s, when little was known about autism. His…

Running a marathon on a tightrope

Running a marathon on a tightrope

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion page, April 19, 2020 We blew our pop stand last Saturday and took a long drive to deliver Easter gifts to the grandkids – through the car window. The adults understood, but our little people surely did not. Why won’t Nana get out of the car and give…

Coronavirus and the circle of life

Coronavirus and the circle of life

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion Page, April 5, 2020 We may be in the midst of a global health crisis but the circle of life continues. An invisible foe, the coronavirus, is changing the way we begin life, live life, and end life. Earlier this week my family grew by one. Spring flowers…

Choice and coronavirus

Choice and coronavirus

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion Page, March 22, 2020 Whenever I’m buckling in for a flight, I survey the strangers seated nearby. If the engine were to sputter or a passenger to suffer a seizure, these would be the people with whom I would navigate a crisis. That realization can be comforting –…

A Miracle in Motion

A Miracle in Motion

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion Page, February 23, 2020 When news broke last month that a helicopter transporting Kobe Bryant, his teenage daughter, and seven others had crashed, I was reminded of the temporary nature of life and prompted to reflect on my own. The Bushaw family did not need such a reminder,…

For Kate and all the other mothers like her, I offer these words …

For Kate and all the other mothers like her, I offer these words …

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion Page, February 2, 2020 It was about this time, 26 years ago, that my toddler stopped talking and started moving at the speed of sound. It was the beginning of an unexpected journey marked by an unexpected discovery, shortly after his second birthday. I laid awake at night,…

Beyond Grit: Learn, Burn and Return

Beyond Grit: Learn, Burn and Return

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion Page, January 19, 2020 There were an awful lot of purple tears flowing last weekend. I’m referring to the aftermath of losses by the Minnesota Vikings and the Baltimore Ravens football teams, whose players and fans sport purple jerseys. Although a Vikings victory was considered a long shot,…

‘Rowing the boat,’ young Casey O’Brien seems to have learned the secrets to living a good life

‘Rowing the boat,’ young Casey O’Brien seems to have learned the secrets to living a good life

I’d never heard of Casey O’Brien until my son-in-law emailed the link to an ESPN story with a note that said,  “This one hits rather close to home.” He was referring to the video of O’Brien’s speech at a Big 10 kickoff luncheon last July. I wasn’t the only one in my family to watch…

The fortifying joy in showing up for grief

The fortifying joy in showing up for grief

From the St. Paul Pioneer Press Opinion Page, Dec. 22, 2019 Last month, a dilemma landed at my doorstep. Should I go? The week before Thanksgiving my sister-in-law Shari lost her father under difficult circumstances. I wanted to be there for her, my brother Steve, and their daughter, Isabel, yet I was wary of adding…